6 Tips for Friendship

 

Inspired by this particular post I want to write about friendship.

For me friendship is probably more important than my family bonds, however it is way more fragile and not as everlasting. Here are some tips on how to get most out of your friendships.

Pay the bill: Don’t go Dutch on your friends. I don’t ever split the bill with my friends, unless we are with a large crowd. Take turns in paying the bills, it always leaves me with a special feeling. Either I treat a friend or my friends treats me to something nice while we had a good time together AND most importantly we don’t have to fight about how to split the bill to the last penny or get out our calculators because one of us had one more drink.

Give: I love giving gifts and receiving them. I love to see the excitement on my friends face and it leaves me feeling wonderful if I found or made something that brings a smile to my friends face.

Support: I try to support my friends in every decision they make, even if it might seem like a bad one. Sure I try to talk them out of really bad decisions but I don’t push. I am not their mum nor dad and there are probably enough people who told them they are wrong. Support them, and if thinks don’t go as planned at least they have learned their own lesson.

Listen: Let them whine, complain, and ramble on if they want too. Sometimes people just need to want to get things of their chest without any interruption. Let them talk, but listen! Give them advise or encouraging words when needed. Don’t just stare into space unless you want the same treatment.

Make memories: Do things, take pictures of it, and keep remembering it for the rest of your life. People you forget are often the people who you don’t share any crazy memories with. Even just a quick message that mentions a certain event can instantly refresh a slightly worn down friendship. However if you don’t have any memories in common  friendships die a slow and painful death.

Let it go: The most important tip however is although energy is needed to let a friendship exist sometimes when things just cost too much energy and you are not gaining anything positive just let it go. It is not worth it, find someone better because even though your friends are important. Your own feelings are more important. And who knows maybe the sudden stop of attention makes your friend realize what they are missing out on!

what are the things you do to keep your friendship going? Do you talk every day? have weekly meetups? tell me, I am curious since I still have a lot to learn.

Love, Wietske

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One thought on “6 Tips for Friendship

  1. youjuchan says:

    Hi, I just came across your blog! This is a really nice entry and I agree with so many things you pointed out 🙂
    Especially the Give/Support and Listen parts, but in my opinion all points really help to keep a friendship going.
    I am at an age where all my friends (and I, myself) are quite busy, have hectic schedules or just very different timetables, so it is very difficult to find the right time to meet up. There are times we meet up a lot and other times where we don’t get to see each other for months.
    I like making food at home and invite my friends to come over. Theres one friend I always take turns with in paying the bill at the restaurant. I have a group of friends who I frequently have ‘Kochtage’ (=Days where we would cook a meal together and hang out while watching films etc) with, which is always our bonding time ^^
    Even though I think it’s very important to keep in touch with your friends, update yourself by contacting them, and not to wait until they come to you, I still have to get that thing into my head.
    Thanks a lot for this post! It really sums up the most important facts to keep a healthy friendship 😀

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